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May 17, 2018

Christine Caine's hurdles may seem insurmountable: She is a survivor of both sexual abuse and cancer. At 32, she found out she was adopted. 

Yet, she is living a profoundly inspired life. Christine leads a global anti human-trafficking movement and was honored with the 2017 Mother Teresa Memorial Award for Social Justice.

Have you ever felt like your story was derailed by unexpected or unwanted news? Christine's story and tips will show you how to "let go of your history so you can step into your destiny."

SHOW NOTES: 

  • John was determined to have Christine on the show after being shocked when a man recently shared that he'd been taken from his home in Africa to be a slave in the US.
  • Christine's organization A21 is currently helping 28 adult victims + 14 children in the US alone.
  • Learn more about A21 Campaign and 21 steps you can take to abolish slavery here
  • Christine’s passion to help victims stems from being sexually abused for more than a decade during her youth.
  • You can rise above the adversity of your past and fulfill a life of purpose. That has been my story; hopefully my past can give others a future.
  • The advent of the #MeToo movement: There is a wakening that this is not okay and realization that it is far wider spread than anyone thought.
  • It's important that we bring justice into the light so that justice can be brought into the circumstance.
  • I would have been very angry; my faith gave me a path forward.
  • It's important to find healing. Anger, bitterness and un-forgiveness do not need to be the end of your story.
  • How do you encourage abuse victims?
    • It's not your fault. Don't internalize what happened or identify yourself by it. You're not what happened to you.
    • Denial doesn't help. It just pushes down anger, resentment + bitterness, all of which must come out.
    • Good counseling. Venting does not equate to healing and wholeness. Process the pain in a safe place with a counselor. When you do, you will come out the other side. 
  • Christine's new book Unexpected: "Just because everything around you is crazy, doesn't mean you have to be! Be rooted."
  • Unexpected things do not have to take you out; you can navigate that. My life is a testament to this truth.
  • What happens to you does not need to define who you are. Your greatest challenge or unexpected news is not where the story ends.
  • Secrets manifest. Learn how to disclose things in a safe place. 
  • Rise above your circumstances. There's a place for lament + grief, but you have to use tools to overcome your adversity.
  • Have faith in this climate of anxiety and fear. Start doing it afraid, until you are no longer afraid.
  • What if we don't have faith? Take the next step toward your future and trust that there is something more than you. Decide what is the next best thing you can do. You'll step into new relationships, opportunities, one door leads to another.
  • How do you do it all? I work a perfectly imbalanced life:
    1. There are seasons of high focus in different aspects of life. I center myself in faith.
    2. I'm drawn by what is important, not the tyranny of the urgent.
    3. I live disciplined, organized and enjoy the journey.
    4. I know that I can't do everything. I don't bear the burden or responsibility for everything I can't change.
    5. I lead through people, empower them and know we are better together.
    6. I do the best I can. At the end of the day, it's enough.
  • How do you let go of the urgent + focus on important? 
    • Be intentional. Keep adjusting your compass to go in the direction you're going. Don't be dragged by the current of the latest craze.
    • Don't let others' agenda become yours.
    • Don't be driven by ego, this puts everything out of order.
    • Keep your soul healthy.
    • We live in an outrage society. Don't react. Respond from a place of wisdom where you feel called to lead. 

CHRISTINE CAINE'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The Bible and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I read it decades ago and keep coming back to it. 

2. What is characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today? Lack of cynicism. I loved when I was not jaded. I have to proactively fight to be unjaded. I wish I didn't have to fight so hard.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? Passport!

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? Billy Graham. I'd ask, "How did you keep your passion alive?"

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? Remain a life-long student.

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Chill out. Don't be so uptight about everything. It will happen.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? She stayed the course.

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Live Inspired with John every day on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest, Instagram and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

May 10, 2018

Mitch Albom, author of the bestselling memoir of all time, Tuesdays with Morrie, never meant to be a writer.

Hear the unlikely way Mitch found himself writing his beloved professor's memoir; and what it means for your unfulfilled dreams. (Hint, there just might be a silver lining!)

Hear what it was like to learn Morrie's life lessons, from Morrie himself - first as a student in his classroom and, ultimately, as a friend in his hospital room.

My friends, 15 million have read the book. Countless have watched the movie (produced by Oprah!). Today, we will hear the story behind the wisdom Morrie shared 20+ years ago.

Don't miss this world-class episode. 

SHOW NOTES: 

  • "You know you've done a lot, when you realize how little you've done."
  • The first time Mitch met his professor, Morrie Schwartz, he wanted to drop his class. Listen to find out what made him stay.
  • "Morrie opened my eyes to being a whole person - and that, that was an accomplishment in it of itself. He made me think in terms of being multi-dimensional instead of just 'get a job, get a career, do well.'"
  • Morrie asked Mitch to keep in touch; 16 years passed without contact. Mitch said, "There was no time to concern myself with the past... only the future. I lost track of Morrie."
    • Do you have a Morrie? Can you make time to reach out to him today? What might he say if you did?
  • Tuesdays with Morrie is about Mitch's "visit after I saw him on TV and realized how guilty I felt. He was in the throws of ALS, but was much more positive about life than I was."
  • Mitch saw the gap between them and wanted to know: What does Morrie know that I don't, about life now that he's looking [death] in the face?
  • Mitch wrote the book to help offset Morrie's medical bills. Mitch thought: "I'll write it and it will be over. I'll have done one nice thing for this man."
  • After being turned down by many publishers, Tuesdays with Morrie was published; without fanfare. It didn't debut on as a bestseller.
  • Man plans and God laughs.
  • What would Morrie say today? "Let me know if my head is getting swelled by this... because they aren't celebrating me, they're celebrating the message."
  • Morrie felt enlightened when he was dying; his whole perspective changed in the last two years of his life.
  • "I am on the last great journey of life and everyone wants to ask me what am I packing. " - Morrie Schwartz
  • What was the main lesson you learned from Morrie? "I asked, 'Why don't you accept the sympathy of your visitors?' He said, 'Why would I ever take from people? Taking makes me feel like I'm dying, giving makes me feel like I'm living.' That was a very profound lesson for me and I've never forgotten it."
  • The more you give the better you feel. The earlier you discover that formula, the happier you're going to be.
  • The best fatherly article John has ever read, was written by Mitch, about Chika, an unlikely friend and daughter he met in Haiti. Read it here.   

MITCH ALBOM'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? Gilliad, by Marilynne Robinson. It's a story of an old preacher getting ready to die, writing a letter to his young son. He shares his thoughts on life. It moves me no matter what page I open to.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do with it? Give it away.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? All the pictures of me and my wife with Chika.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? God. The first question I'd ask, "What don't we understand about why we suffer? If you created the world in your image, there's a disconnect between the pain we endure and the glory we think we're going to enjoy after we die."

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? My mom said to me, "You're only going to have a few really good friends in your life no matter how many people you meet. People will disappoint you. The only thing you can do better than to have [a few] people who will always be there and be true, is to marry the best one."

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Slow down. Stop thinking your life is measured by how much you accomplish. Pay attention to how nice people are being to you and how less than nice you are being to them. Recognize that you have a responsibility to the rest of the world, not just yourself. Take a breath now and then... like the Billy Joel lyrics, "Slow down you crazy child, you're so ambitious for a juvenile."

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? He learned, he loved and he learned some more; and tried to be better everyday than he had been the day before.

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I can’t wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired.

Live Inspired with John every day on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest, Instagram and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

May 3, 2018

"It was good until it wasn't."

Erik Wahl valued hard work and success. Achievement + money were his measurement and, by his early 30s, he was very successful in corporate America.

Until he wasn't. During the dot-com bust in 2000, Erik lost the "financial fortress" he'd built and his identity along with it. This led him to ask the life-changing question:"Who were you before the world told you who you should be?"

Erik answered this question, made BIG changes in his life + redefined success. Now, as a performance graffiti artist, he helps clients like IBM, Microsoft and Disney answer this bold question, too. Today, we're going to "unearth great things lying dormant inside" of you. Join us! 

SHOW NOTES:

  • Watch the entire episode on YouTube.
  • Often we're rewarded based on the 3 Deadly P's: Power, prestige + possession.  
  • Our script for how to live is off, we tend to live with a scarcity mindset. "I must secure what's mine so I can build; there's not enough available." Choose abundance instead.
  • When you're rocked at your core foundation - financial, relational, health - you realize you long for something more.
  • "As a speaker, I bypass the cynical brain + go straight to the heart. I stretch minds so we can see everything a bit differently."
  • A mind stretched never returns to its original dimensions.
  • Create for the sake of creating, not the finished product.
  • I changed my definition of success: "What if success is a good meal with my wife and boys at the end of the day? I don't need certain life elements to be a certain way to be successful."
  • Today, Erik is a performance graffiti artist. Check out John's behind the scenes tour of Erik's studio.
  • Opportunity for love, relationship and empathy are hidden in plain sight. Don't be too "successful" to see them.
  • Better leaders are more creative + adapt to change.
  • Everyone is creative, but our creativity is hidden in uncertainties + the quietness of life... a space we don't often enter.
  • Creativity, like gratitude, is a discipline. Embrace the choice to be creative like you embrace doing other difficult things.
  • When asked "Who here is an artist?" Every hand goes up when we're kids, very few as adults. Why? Hear Erik's answer.
  • "Let go of the idea that we 'earn value' through how we perform on paper, what college our kids go to, what car we drive."
    • How do I pivot into this? Look at your life + values. Are you living a life of success or significance? Does your calendar reflect your priorities?
  • Art is an exploration of getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. Can I get out and dance with my wife and not let the critics or my own internal voice of judgement stop me from the enjoyment of moving with someone I love?
  • How do we encourage the next generation to hold tight to their crayons? Commission your child to create. While doodling, they're thinking expansively + problem solving, not for a grade.
    • "Paint a picture of what you want to be when you grow up, and I'll take you for ice-cream... Write a poem about how much you love your mom, and I'll take you to a game."
    • Ask questions about your child's creation. It gives you insight to who they are.
  • Spontaneity is a mini lab to practice living present in the now.
  • Follow Erik at www.TheArtofVision.com
  • Demarius "found" Erik's first geo-cached painting. 
  • Erik dedicated his books Unthink and The Spark & The Grind to his wife and business partner, Tasha.
  • For those of us enduring a trying season in our marriage, what would you say? Focus on why you got married, to: Lift each other up, help your spouse become the very best, become better as two then we could be as one. You entered into it with excitement, love and lust; revisit those emotions. 
  • It's how you act and react to bumps in the road that defines your marriage.

ERIK WAHL'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The Soul of Money by Lyn Twist. It changed my relationship with what had been a dominant identity for me.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do with it? Decreasing my wants and needs has been the most fiscally conservative policy I could have taken on. We'd use it to give to others; build traction for someone else's vision..

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? One of my wife's photo albums because I know how much she would want those and I want to see her face when I come out with it in hand!

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? St. Francis of Assisi, he came from a life of privilege and chose a life of connectedness. I'd want to talk with him about that transition + experience.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? Be present. 

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Don't be so guarded around shaping your identity; you have no idea of what this future "you" will be doing in life... thinking you know is a recipe for challenge.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read?  Servant.

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I can’t wait to see you here next Thursday! Today is your day. Live Inspired.

Live Inspired with John every day on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest, Instagram and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

Apr 26, 2018

"Don't think of your age."

When asked how to actively age, 87-year-old Sister Madonna Buder, nicknamed "The Iron Nun" in her 2016 Nike Ad, shared the above.

She continued with, "Just keep moving." Sr. Buder began running at 48. She has since completed 45+ ironman races, 300+ triathlons and won her age group dozens of times.

My friends, if you think you’re too old, too late, too inexperienced, too anything, to embrace a new dream in your life... then you absolutely cannot miss today’s episode. 

Sr. Madonna Buder, the Iron Nun, will encourage you to go ALL IN for your dreams, no matter your age or perceived limitation. Join us!

SHOW NOTES: 

  • Everyone was expecting her to announce her engagement; instead she announced that she was entering the convent.
  • Began running at 48 and became a world-class athlete, completing in more than 300+ triathlons.
  • "Running harmonizes mind, body and soul." These words, shared by a priest, inspired Sr. Buder to start running.
  • "You have to run for 5 weeks before you get the runner's high."
  • "The only way to not put my body through this [painful training] again is to keep going. From now on, my body is ready."
  • She was in a Nike commercial; they call her "The Iron Nun."
  • She ran in the 2013 Boston Marathon. At 24 miles in, her race ended as they deterred runners after the bombing.
  • When you are met with opposition, it's something training you for the future to be strong.
  • How do you view time? 
    1. The only thing that doesn't change at all anymore is constant change. Everyday you wake up to a new day. Don't carry baggage from the past.
    2. What I love to do that really helps me is to watch children in the park. They run more than they walk! I just think in my mind, I'm that kid running!
  • The Grace to Race, is Sr. Madonna Buder's book.

 SISTER MADONNA BUDER'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The Bible, even though I've never read the whole thing!

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do with it? I'd have to employ someone to decide which worthy causes to give it to.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? My birth certificate. 

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? I'd go straight to the source, God Himself! The older I get the more questions I have, not answers.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? From my grandfather, "If there is anything worth doing it is worth doing well."

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Always consult with your maker.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read?  In gratitude for all you have made, including me.

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Live Inspired with John every day on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest, Instagram and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

Sep 21, 2017

"It was out of abject failure that I learned to speak."

My friends, today we get to hang out with a legendary speaker. Mark Sanborn has spoken around the world 2,500+ times, authored the wildly popular Fred Factor and just released The Potential Principle

Mark will share his story about being a boy in 4H Club who failed at presenting a 5-minute speech... and how he transformed that failure into a successful speaking career.

As Mark says: "We enjoy our successes but learn more from our setbacks." Join us and get read to transform challenges into an inspired life.

SHOW NOTES:

  • Nobody can prevent you from choosing to be extraordinary.
  • It was out of abject failure that I learned to speak. I bombed so badly giving a 5-minute speech in grade school it made me want to learn to write and deliver a winning speech. 
  • When someone says it doesn't matter, usually they're just minimizing disappointment. 
  • We enjoy our successes but learn a lot more from our setbacks.
  • Look for the pain in your life; often there's an opportunity there. 
  • Lock in greatness, fame is fickle. Greatness is about contribution and that is where you have control.
  • If you blame your failures on others, you can't own your successes. Leaders take responsibility but give credit.
  • Managers try to be heroes. Leaders try to make heroes.
  • Often you become extraordinary inspite of not because of. In the face of a challenge, that's when people become great.
  • We are responsible for living in a way that shows others what we we truly believe.
  • Integrity is the distance between what you think and do.
  • Your beliefs, values and purpose manifest in your work.
  • Couple your actions with intentions; too often we say something but don't do anything about it.
  • Narrow the gap between what you know you should do and what you actually do.
  • Leadership test: Is anything/one better because of you?
  • We all know how good we've become. None of us know how good we can be. Try to achieve a little more of your potential so you don't miss the great opportunity of life.
  • The Potential Principle, Mark's new book, share a process to help you go from where you are to where you want to be

MARK SANBORN'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The Bible is the underpinning of my worldview. The River Why, is one of the greatest works of fiction. It really impacted me.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do with it? Meet with my financial planner and make sure my family's needs are met so they can get by, but not so much they don't have to do anything. Invest the rest in institutions that will outlive me.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? A handful of books and our computer with photos.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? The Apostle Paul who called himself the chief of the sinners, but was also one of the greatest influencers of the Christian faith. I can relate to a really flawed guy who is doing his best.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? A congressman told me at a young age that anytime you give a speech, people always want to be entertained. I've replaced "entertain" with engage.

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Lighten up. I can be a pretty intense dude. Be serious about what you do, but don't take yourself to serious.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? If you want to be successful do whatever you do a little better than anyone else who did it by working a little bit harder than any one else did. 

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Live Inspired with John everyday on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning 

 

Jul 20, 2017

"How you respond to adversity determines the story you write."

Life came at Ben hard and fast. When he was 6 months old, his divorcee mom was diagnosed with a rare disease and given only a few years to live.

The above quote is one Ben gleaned from his mother’s journal*, which he received 10 years after she passed. The time capsule of her positive attitude preserved in the journal swept Ben away. Today, he shares her worldview as a performance coach, speaker and author.

You're going to love Ben’s story, heart + concrete tools to build the business and life you want. Don’t miss it.

SHOW NOTES:

  • Life is tough but we have it in us to keep fighting.
  • Black boxes: We all have these places where we tuck away things we aren’t ready to deal with. (For me, that was my mom’s journal.) The stuff that takes you deep and makes you ask: Is it time for me to go there?
  • Don’t wait too long to take on the stuff that hurts. Real challenges show real character. Have courage and surround yourself with people who help give you that courage. That’s when you’ll find a deeper level of inner success.
  • Everybody has a story and everyone is writing their story. My goal with clients is to help him/her connect on a deeper level to what he/she is capable of achieving.
  • Right where you are, right now, in your life: It is part of your story. It’s likely not the end; just a chapter.
  • Learn and grow where you are. The life you want, you can get if you:
    1. Have a strong vision.
    2. Believe in that vision.
    3. Are willing to put the work in every day.
  • Why am I trying to control something I can’t control? When I asked this question, it helped me move on in my professional path.
  • Think about where you want to go, personally and professionally. Write it on paper “I am: a marathon runner” and believe in it. “I am at this level in sales.” Once you understand where you’re going, that’s how you build a prize fighter day.
  • Make every day a “prize fighter day.” What does this mean? Take your goal and break it down into what you need to do today to ensure you eventually meet your goal. If you spend your day this way, you’re having a prize fighter day.
  • Darren Hardy, The Compound Affect
  • Create habits that are sustainable longterm.
  • A successful mindset is one where we focus on solutions rather than the problem.
  • Focusing on solutions rather than problems = the power to reframe.
  • Identify what you can do that is positive and keep your mind on that.
  • How you choose to respond to adversity determines the story you write.
  • Ben’s purpose statement: to educate, empower and inspire individuals to uncover their passions and desires to seek a greater vision for themselves.
  • If you don’t know why you’re doing something, identify the purpose because it’s what is going to get you back up.
  • @ContinuedFight on twitter and Instagram

*Ben’s mom’s journal:

 

BEN NEWMAN'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? Discover your Destiny, Robin Sharma. If you’re looking to find your purpose, this is a great fable format that will do it for you.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. Donate to Barnes Jewish Hospital in honor of my mother. We donate a lot for my mom, so I’d want my wife to get to pick some places to donate to her passions, too. I would definitely fly on a private jet because it is hard to be on the road and miss family time. To catch 30 – 40 more nights at home? I would do it!

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. My mom’s journal.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? My mom. I would just hold her hand and hug her and I’d be crying so hard I couldn’t speak.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? It’s not how long you live it’s how you choose to live your life. Advice from my mom.

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Never settle; emotionally and in relationships especially.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? Leave your legacy.

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Live Inspired with John everyday on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

May 18, 2017

"I grew up in New York, in a small place..."

Lolly Daskal grew up in Brooklyn, NY. One of the biggest most metropolitan cities in the world, and yet to Lolly "it felt like a very small place." Her life existed within a few city blocks and her community only spoke Yiddish, German and Hungarian. Her family was very religious and she was expected to be married and begin having children by 16.

Lolly grew up very inquisitive, which was not supported in an environment where you were expected to just keep things "they way they are." When she first moved out of the community, she discovered the power of books and believed for the first time: "Wow!" I can ask any question, do anything, be anyone!"

For the first time - her world felt expansive. While she felt she no longer had a home, she found "sometimes you have to get lost to be found."

Lolly has been an insatiable student of books, the world and human behavior since. Today, she is a highly-sought business coach and author and her mission is to teach others how to "lead from within."

SHOW NOTES:

  • Lolly has read a book a day for 20+ years.
  • Self discovery isn't easy. You feel like you're on a wheel and you're not sure you are ever going to get out; if it is ever going to get better.
  • "A game changer for me was reading what Joseph Campbell wrote: 'In your abyss lies your treasures.' We have ideas of what we want to be, but life doesn't unfold that way. If I can remember this quote, than I am okay."
  • Her book The Leadership Gap was published this month and shares her rethink system, or 7 leadership archetypes that she's used with 1,000+ clients.
    • Example: "R" is for rebel; someone who wants to make an impact in the world, but they need confidence to do it. The gap is when you don't have confidence. How do you get confidence? You identify your capabilities and competencies. You get to choose, are you going to be a rebel and choose confidence or imposter and feel inadequate/undeserving?
  • We all have self doubt because we measure ourselves by everyone else and end up feeling less worthy. Negative internal dialogue is very prominent.
  • Ways to overcome imposter syndrome (aka feeling undeserving):
    1. At night, think about all the things you did well that day. This will help even out negative messages + change your inner dialogue.
    2. Ask yourself: What did I do today that I can do even better tomorrow? Don't measure against someone else, measure against yourself
  • www.LollyDaskal.com 

     

LOLLY DASKAL'S INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? Man's Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl. She rereads it every year on her birthday. Keeps her grounded in what's important.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do? Get every single homeless person off the street.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? 100s of pictures from when my kids were younger.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be?Victor Frankl, Joseph Campbell, 

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? "When you are no longer able to change the situation, you will always be challenge to change yourself." - Frankl | It will teach you be flexible to change and challenge yourself, to find something with in you that can be different. Continuously grow, learn, change and stay agile.

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Let go of perfect.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? Lolly saw greatness in everyone she met. 

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Jan 26, 2017

“Parents are so much more worried today then they were 35 years ago. They so desperately want to be ‘good parents’ that they’re exhausting important energy on stuff that doesn’t matter.”

This is a quote from today’s guest, Meg Meeker, MD. Meg is a pediatrician, author, parent, wife, grandmother and business owner. Her goal is to diffuse fear-based parenting. 

I shared the stage with Meg at the Dave Ramsey SMART Conference and fell in love with her message around her book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters

I selfishly invited her on the show to grow as a father myself and help you in your journey as a parent, too. Meg’s insights are great for parents, but relate to all of us as aunts, uncles, sons and daughters, too.

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MY MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

  • 3 Ways to Shift from Fear-Based Parenting

    1. Shift your perspective of yourself in your kids eyes. If a child is with you, he doesn’t want anything other than knowing that you like being with him. Stop worrying about what he’s eating for dinner and just focus on him.
    2. Make an exhaustive list of ALL the things you worry about with your kids. Then tell yourself “Let go of all of it! Today I’m just going to communicate that I like being with him.” Then do it again the next day. Watch, your whole relationship will change.
    3. Schedule your child less. Everyone says their life is too busy, but who makes it so? Are you willing to surrender time with your child for them to be in an activity that they’ll only be involved in for a few years? A child’s character is developed when he’s face to face with mom and dad. That time is important. Also, the remedy for your child acting out is MORE time with you. It all goes back to: Don’t schedule them so much.
  • A tip about getting to 35 years of marriage? We refused to quit. Once we determined that we were that committed, then you could just wait “it” out.
  • No matter our age, we all struggle with self-esteem. Hearing positive feedback from our parents as adults is still comforting.
  • Make parenting simpler: Love your kids and do the best you can. Letting your young kids know you want their company is important. We think kids need other kids and peers. They don’t. They need you.
  • Real joy comes from time spent at home working through life with your family. Life in a family unit is messy, working through the messiness together is how the joy comes.
  • Don’t assume that just because your peers are doing something, that it has to be so. Set the bar higher for your child. They can have a better life than they currently do (in regards to technology, etc.). Two ways to do this:
  • Find two times a month to schedule yourself to stay home and spend time as a family. The first week might be terrible, but by the fourth one, it will be great.
  • Declare one hour in the evening as electronic free. Kids are feeling ignored because parents are on cell phones. Parents are having a hard time because kids aren’t paying attention due to their relationship with technology. Pick one hour each evening (or 3 nights wkly to start) with no tech. For this to work, everyone in your house must follow the rule. 
  • One piece of advice for fathers to “be heroes”? Recognize you already have the cape (because your kid has put it on you!). You don’t need to get a bigger house or get a pool in the backyard. You just need to maintain. Shift your perspective, you are already a hero in your kids life. (Note: this is what your kid is looking for in a hero, and it’s well within your grasp, be: available, engaged, have his back, and protect him.)

MEG MEEKER, MD’S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read?

Celebration of the Disciplines by Richard Foster. My main takeaway was to simplify and focus on the important stuff.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do?

I would give 99% of it away to World Vision and The Medical Institute for Sexual Health. My needs are met, I don’t need more. Having too much would just complicate my life.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be?

I would grab a photo of my parents; they are no longer alive and I don’t trust my memory to keep a clear picture.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be?

Jesus. I would love to talk to Jesus, have him clear up some unanswered questions I have about pain in the world. I would also want to tell him thank you.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received?

Reduce your expectations. They are what cause us misery. the more we can accept what is and who people are and love people for who people are today, the freer we really are to to live and to love.

 6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20?

Keep focused on God’s plan for your life, not YOUR plan for you life because you are self-centered.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read?

She loved him well. First God. Second, my husband. If after I die this can be said, then my life has been good.

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