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Jul 19, 2018

Dr. Laurie Nadel, a psychologist specializing in overcoming trauma, has helped people impacted by the 9/11 attacks, Hurricane Sandy and, most recently, the mass shooting in Parkland, FL.

Today, Laurie joins us to talk about how to live inspired after our personal tragedies. Whether divorce, bankruptcy, a natural disaster or anything in between: A "trauma" is anything that leaves you feeling like you've lost your control, your safety or your identity.

My friends, we've all had challenges. Today's episode will directly help you overcome yours.

SHOW NOTES:

  • If you like this podcast, you will love Live Inspired IN STUDIO. It's my membership community where like-minded friends join me via live webcast to live inspired together. Registration opens soon! Join the waitlist.
  • Dr. Laurie Nadel shared how she was able to better relate to her mother after learning about the Myers Briggs personality types.
  • Dr. Laurie Nadel's first book was a 4-time bestseller + on Oprah's book club twice: Sixth Sense: The Whole-Brain Book of Intuition, Hunchies, Gut Feelings, and Their Place in Your Everyday Life 
    • "This book changes lives, in terms of understanding how how you think and process who you are."
  • Her most recent book came out in April 2018: The Five Gifts: Discovering Hope, Healing and Strength When Disaster Strikes
    • "This is a tool for people in the midst of tragedy. Open it and something will pop out you can use for self care."
    • The 5 Gifts: humility, patience, empathy, forgiveness, growth. 
  • Something like a school shooting or natural disaster, they rip away the fabric of what we thought normal was. When they occur, we have to find a way of balancing in the midst of emotional chaos for sometime. You can swipe it away when you see it on your screen, but when it happens to you in real life, you can’t change the channel.
  • At a certain point you're out of shock and can start to think about next week instead of just getting through the day.
  • When we start to feel like we can get through a week is when we have the strength or enlarged capacity to connect with people as a result of what we’ve been through.
  • Three Cycles of Loss (when you can't go back to who you were before the injury, car accident, bankruptcy, tragic event):
    1. Loss of control of your physical environment.
    2. Loss of safety, you may be emotionally fragile.
    3. Loss of identity / who you are now.
  • For another "Live Inspired" take on this topic, check out Ep. #4 with Michaela Haas as she explores + explains: Post Traumatic Growth.

DR. LAURIE NADEL’S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? Catcher in the Rye and Catch 22. These two seminal books of the 60s have characters who are authentic and think in questions. They question authority. I admire them and hope I never stop questioning. 

2. What is a characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today? My imagination has been tempered by reality and the real world. I was an excellent creative writer, I made up stories. I wish I had a more active imagination.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? I would have grabbed the original edition of the Wizard of Oz that I was saving for my grandchildren. The beautiful books from my childhood were destroyed in Hurricane Sandy.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? Dan Rather, I’m fortunate and privileged that he has been my mentor, believer and supporter of my book. I’m always fascinated by what he has to say with where we are now in America as compared to all of the cycles he has seen in the course of his lifetime and what we can learn from that to move forward and be more empathetic.

5. What is the best advice you've ever received? Dan always gives me great advice: Just keep writing.

6. What advice would you give your 20-year-old self? Calm down a little bit. I was definitely wild. I wouldn’t want to clip her wings or put the breaks on, but I have a lot of people who come into my practice for therapy in their mid to late 20s because what we learn during this season is that the rules of life and family culture we learn through childhood don’t always apply to the world at large. The world is very different when you actually get out there and have to make your way in it. Be careful but be open.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read She was a great mom and great friend.

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If you enjoyed today’s episode: Subscribe, rate & review wherever you get your podcasts. See you here next Thursday!

Live Inspired with John every day on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest, Instagram and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning 

Jul 12, 2018

Captain Jim Lovell was the Spacecraft Commander of Apollo 13. The mission was meant to be the third moon landing attempt, but  infamously was cut short when a tank exploded.

Don’t miss hearing this epic piece of history from the man who lived it. Jim Lovell also shares how he attained his dream of becoming an astronaut in spite of growing up poor and fatherless during the Great Depression.

Jim’s unfiltered look at what it was like aboard Apollo 13, what it took to get there and what it took to get back to earth safely will unearth keys to live inspired as a leader, team player and dreamer. Don’t miss this episode.

SHOW NOTES:

  • Read Jim Lovell's book Apollo 13.
  • Check out the Apollo 13 movie by Ron Howard.
  • How did you keep a right mind individually and as a team in the face of so many challenges?

"We had no solutions, all we knew was we'd lose oxygen soon. Any situation like this, you have to keep your cool and keep a positive attitude. If I had curled up and waited for the emergency to happen, I’d still be there waiting. The three of us talked through what was good and what was bad; the ground team analyzed with us. We talked through what tools we had and how we could make them work for us. We decided one by one what was necessary and what we had to do to overcome."

  • When the odds are that long, how do you respond? "We thought about what we had to overcome, specifically: 
  1. We had to figure out how to get back on course to get home. 
  2. We had to decide what we had to turn off to save critical energy.
  3. We had to realize that each time we, we were slowly poisoning ourselves with carbon dioxide.
  4. We had to learn how to connect our current system to the old one because they weren't built to connect.
  • See the famous"Earthrise" photo (taken by Lunar Module Pilot Anders on Apollo 8) we reference here.
  • If you like this podcast, you will love Live Inspired IN STUDIO. It's my membership community where like-minded friends join me via live webcast to live inspired together. Registration opens soon! Join the waitlist.

CAPTAIN JIM LOVELL’S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The best book is the one I wrote! If you were moved hearing about Jim's journey, check out his book.

2. What is a characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today? I wish I was a bit more aggressive. I could have done more work if I had a more aggressive approach to life. There are always things you think about, "Oh, I wish I had done that. After Apollo 8, there are things I know now, that I wish I had shared with the joint congress back then.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? The term paper I wrote my first class year at the Naval Academy because that gave me the incentive to continue. 

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? Charles Lindbergh was my hero when I was a boy. We could both think about what we accomplished. 

5. What is the best advice you've ever received? My Captain who told me to go to the Naval Academy. During my second year at the Naval Academy, the Korean War started. If I'd stayed in my previous program, I’d have gone to Korea and the program was cancelled.

6. What advice would you give your 20-year-old self? Be adventuresome. I was thinking about myself. I was pretty much on my own.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? That I added a little knowledge to our space activities. 

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If you enjoyed today’s episode: Subscribe, rate & review wherever you get your podcasts. See you here next Thursday!

Live Inspired with John every day on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest, Instagram and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning 

Get my #1 national best selling book ON FIRE, here. Or, read the first chapters for free, here.

If you like this podcast, you will love Live Inspired IN STUDIO. It's my membership community where like-minded friends join me via live webcast to live inspired together. Registration opens soon! Join the waitlist.

Jul 5, 2018

The Miracle Season is a major motion picture based on the true story of Coach Kathy Bresnahan (played by Helen Hunt) leading her volleyball team, against all odds, to a state championship after their captain and all-star player, Caroline Found, passed away tragically before the season began.

That time you wished you were seeing the movie in the PREVIEW instead of the one you were there to actually see... Has this ever happened to you? I was so moved by the preview for The Miracle Season, I made a date to take my whole family to see it when it came out in April. See the preview here.

Today, I get to introduce you to Kathy Bresnahan. Coach Kathy will sheds light on grieving, leading and what it means to "live like line" - the slogan + motivation, created in memory of their lost teammate Caroline.

Don't miss this episode. It's my most emotional to date; because there are so many lessons to not only live more inspired, but to #LiveLikeLine.

SHOW NOTES:

  • Check out the HBO special here.
  • Get a copy of Kathy Bresnahan's The Miracle Season book here.
  • Order a Live Like Line t-shirt here.
  • "18 people committed to one goal, we weren't going to be denied."
  • How did you guide your team through the grief of losing their friend? The best thing I did was put down my boundaries and let them know how much I loved them. I gave them the latitude to grieve how they wanted. I didn't make them conform. I was able to just guide them enough; and they helped me, too.
  • Did you like hearing the story behind the movie? If so, check out Episode #76, on which my guest shares the story of Welles Crowther, the hero in the movie Man in Red Bandana.
  • Learn more about the Live Like Line Foundation here.
  • Live Inspired IN STUDIO is my membership community where like-minded friends join me via live webcast to live inspired together. Registration opens soon! Join the waitlist.

KATHY BRESNAHAN'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah. I love her writing style, it follows two sisters during WW2 and what they did during the war.

2. What is a characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today? Spontaneity. I think now they call it ADHD.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? My picture of my dad. He died three years ago. He was my biggest fan. 

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? I'd like to talk to Mother Teresa. She just seemed like such a wise and kind person.  

5. What is the best advice you've ever received? When that season started one of my best friends called me and said, "Grieve for three days. You can't write off the season or go through the motions. Do what you do best: Go play volleyball. Honor her. Don't win for her, play like Line."

6. What advice would you give your 20-year-old self? Oh my God, be healthier!

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? She lived her life to the fullest and she cared about people and helped them laugh.

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If you enjoyed today’s episode: Please subscribe, rate & review wherever you get your podcasts. See you here next Thursday!

Live Inspired with John every day on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest, Instagram and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning 

Get my #1 national best selling book ON FIRE, here.

Jun 28, 2018

Today, I share a story I don't often get to tell.

The story of my siblings and their heroic acts that saved my life 30 years ago. Even more relevant: the 3 things we do that allow us to remain close as we get older.

My friend, in honor of my parents 50th wedding anniversary, I'm sharing an intimate look at my family, what we've been through, what we've learned + what it might mean for you.

SHOW NOTES:

  • As promised during this episode, here are a few past episodes on which we discussed depression and mental health:

    • Episode #46 with Dennis Gillan: Break down the stigma around mental health to better care for yourself, those you love + those in the wake of suicide. Dennis shares how mental health claimed the life of his brothers + what he's doing about it today.
    • Episode #73 with Sue Klebold: Sue is the mother of Dylan Klebold, a shooter at Columbine High School in 1999. You'll be amazed by how much you can relate to Sue, her family + her story. Sue shares ideas to better manage mental health so we don't have to step into her shoes. 
    • Episode #65 Mike Robbins: Mike was a pro athlete before an injury ended his career. Now, he's an author + speaker on emotional intelligence, teamwork + leadership for clients like Google, NBA + Harvard. Mike shares about his depression + the questions he asked to discover that healing is multi-layered: body, mind + heart.

  • 3 Things the O'Leary siblings do to stay close:
    1. Communicate frequently. 
    2. Forgive promptly. 
    3. Their success is not your failure. 
  • Live Inspired IN STUDIO is my membership community where like-minded friends join me via live webcast to live inspired together. Registration opens soon! Join the waitlist. 

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If you enjoyed today’s episode: Please subscribe, rate & review wherever you get your podcasts. See you here next Thursday!

Live Inspired with me on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedIn, Instagram and get my Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning 

Get my #1 national best selling book ON FIRE, here.

Jun 21, 2018

Mel Robbins is the author of The 5 Second Rule, the #1 audio book in the world. She is also the most booked female speaker in the world and hosts the Audible Original series Kick Ass With Mel Robbins.

Today, Mel shares how she has helped millions of people transform their lives by simplifying their biggest challenges into a 5-second solution. Possibly even more impactful: She shares how her 5-second rule originated as a tool to overcome the anxiety and malaise that was crushing her life.

Today, Mel is ON FIRE for life, and is offering an amazing tool to help us all live more inspired. Don't miss this amazing episode. 

SHOW NOTES:

  • Get your copy of The 5 Second Rule here.
  • "Break the patterns that you think in and your entire life will change."
  • The 5-second rule is a ritual to interrupt your bad thoughts, habits and patterns. It's a way to self coach.
  • Try the 5-second rule to see "not just how often you live in a negative mental state, but how easy it is to redirect it."
  • There is a distinct gap between your will to change your life + the excuses that stop you. That gap is about five seconds long.
  • Being nervous or afraid of something is normal. Letting it stop you is a choice. 
  • You are one decision away from a totally different life.
  • Everything is changing around us. You can't control that. You can control what you think and do. Respond instead of react.  
  • We over-complicate things by the way that we think.
  • It's undeniable; you change your life 5 seconds at a time.

MEL ROBBIN'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? I love The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, page turners, can't-put-it-down, twist-and-turn books, but The Alchemist is the most impactful.

2. What is a characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today? I was a climber, a dare devil. I am not that way anymore. I'm a bit risk averse now.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? Oprah Winfrey. If there was just one thing that you wanted every human being to know about life, what would it be?

5. What is the best advice you've ever received? 5 4 3 2 1. I think it was a divine moment when I was picked to be a messenger, because, let's be honest, its the dumbest idea in the world.

6. What advice would you give your 20-year-old self? Girl, go get some Zoloft!

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? 5 4 3 2 1, go!

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If you enjoyed today’s episode: Please subscribe, rate & review wherever you get your podcasts. See you here next Thursday!

Live Inspired with John every day on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest, Instagram and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning 

Jun 14, 2018

Let's talk about how to simplify life so you can live inspired. If you’ve enjoyed the 80+ episodes of the podcast, you're in for a treat. Instead of interviewing a special guest, I'm focusing on YOU: Your story, successes, failures, life.

Get ready for an exclusive peek into my private Live Inspired IN STUDIO membership community - like-minded friends who join me via live-webcast once a month. (I absolutely love our podcast; and IN STUDIO is even better. Find out why.)

My friend, get a snapshot of one of the most popular IN STUDIO webcasts to date: How to simplify life.

SHOW NOTES:

*Registration only opens twice annually. This allows John to focus his energy on pouring into members. Make sure you don't miss open registration! Sign up for the special wait list: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Studio

Jun 7, 2018

Ben and Amy Wright own the wildly successful Bitty & Beau’s Coffee shop, which proudly employs people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. The shop is named after their children who have Down Syndrome.

Ben and Amy Wright are combatting the staggering 80% unemployment rate for people with disabilities + using their shop as a platform to share this truth: “We all have different abilities. There’s room for everyone; we just have to see it that way.”

Join me and the Wrights as they thoughtfully share questions (if you don’t have a disability/know someone who does) and answers (if you do) to everything you’ve ever wanted to ask or tell on this subject.

SHOW NOTES:

 

BEN + AMY WRIGHT'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? 

Ben: Knot on a Counting Rope, a children's book about an American Indian child who is born blind and how his tribe loves him for who he is.

Amy: The Giving Tree, it's a children's book that says it all, the way to live and to give to others.

2. What is a characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today?

Amy: Dancing more, laughing more; although at the coffee shop everyone has fewer inhibitions and just live out loud so I get a good dose of that. I wish I didn't carry worries that I carry and danced more.

Ben: The instinct to play more. Be goofy and uninhibited. If you feel like dancing, dance. If you feel like running, run. If you feel like jumping, jump. I have so much restraint these days trying to be the father, grown up, mature person when inside I wish I could grab back onto some of the playfulness I had as a child.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? 

Amy: As many photo albums as I could carry out. 

Ben: This beautiful portrait of Amy when we were married. I want family to be able to come to look at the portrait of her and realize that's where it all started. I believe my life really started in earnest when I met her.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? 

Amy: My mom, who said "I hope this baby you are carrying has Down Syndrome just like beau." She passed away just a few months before Bitty was born.

Ben: Amy! We're so busy, we don't get much of an opportunity to talk with each other. I can't think of anyone I'd rather spend my life or time with her.

5. What is the best advice you've ever received? 

Ben: You are fearless and you need to stay that way. 

Amy: You love your children the same by loving them differently. My mom said this. Everyone has different needs; meet people where they are.

6. What advice would you give your 20-year-old self? 

Amy: You think this is good now? Just wait! The best is yet to come. 

Ben: Take even more risks. Life is unpredictable. It can change in a heart beat. If there is something you believe in, don't just think about it, do it.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? 

Ben: He broadened my perspective on what I thought was possible and gave me hope.

Amy: She loved fiercely.

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If you enjoyed today’s episode: Please subscribe, rate & review wherever you get your podcasts. See you here next Thursday!

Live Inspired with John every day on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest, Instagram and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning 

May 31, 2018

In 1972 there was a historic plane crash; the only one in which the plane was flying at both cruising speed + altitude and had survivors. One of the survivors was Nando Parrado.

In street clothes and without food, Nando survived the winter in the Andes. His story was told in the 1993 movie, Alive. He was played by Ethan Hawke.

Today, we’re joined by Nando. He is one of my heroes and the most courageous survivor I’ve met. Don’t miss this unbelievable story of leadership and drive in the face of dire adversity.

SHOW NOTES

  • I was angry, but I couldn't feel pain or sorrow. In a survival situation, something is triggered to protect you because if you suffer that pain, it'd be too much to survive.
  • Winter in the Andes: There's snow everywhere. There's nothing and no one coming.
  • All the born leaders died, [so new] leaders emerged. It's the most fantastic leadership story ever told.
  • I tried to leave. I'd walk 8 paces and I'd sink all the way to my waste in deep snow.
  • What kept you going? "The only thing I knew was that I didn't want to die. I'd fight until I stopped breathing. My mantra was 'If I am breathing, I am alive.'"
  • You are formed by the experiences of your life. I was a typical guy, but the leaders of our team died. Something is triggered inside of you [to become a leader.]
  • Nando Parrado wrote his book Miracle in the Andes 30 years after the accident, as a gift for his father. "What my dad taught me when I was young saved my life in the Andes."
  • I decided to have a second life. When you understand that there is only one, you live in a different way.
  • Nando went to the glacier with his wife + daughters to honor his mother + sister. See the photo here
  • If you live your life thinking that, if you changed something from your past, your present would be better: That's insane, because it didn't happen. Live in your present.
  • Plan your future by living the best you can in your present.
  • There is life after tragedy. Go forward and be resilient. Realize that life will not be perfect.
  • People are afraid of losing things. I get it, but I lost everything when I was very young and I came back from that.
  • I'm not afraid of losing things. I'm afraid of losing time to live. 

NANDO PARRADO'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? Books by Spanish Author Carlos Ruiz Zafon because, to me, a book is entertainment. A good time on a quiet night. He's poetic and simple.

2. What is a characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today? To be more timid, I wouldn't go into some situations that later I regret.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? Photos of my grandparents.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? Pico Mendez from Uruguay. He devotes his life remarkably to helping people. I would ask "How do you do it? How do you find the time?"

5. What is the best advice you've ever received? Never look back because the only thing you get when you look back is a bloody pain in the neck.

6. What advice would you give your 20-year-old self? Don't change anything.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? It was all worth it.

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If you enjoyed today’s episode: Please subscribe, rate & review wherever you get your podcasts. See you here next Thursday!

Live Inspired with John every day on FacebookTwitterYouTubeLinkedInPinterest, Instagram and get his Monday Motivation email: www.JohnOLearyInspires.com/Monday-Morning

May 24, 2018

Rachel Cruze helps people learn the proper ways to handle money and stay out of debt. Her new book Love Your Life, Not Theirs guides readers to live an inspired life, within their means and without the comparison game.

Rachel shares that, "Money is a topic so many people have lost hope over. I give a clear path to help you win, gain control and lower stress around personal finances."

My friends, join me and Rachel to get great tips on how to better manage your finances and more importantly: Love YOUR life.

SHOW NOTES: 

  • Despited being the daughter of financial guru Dave Ramsey, Rachel did not grow up extravagantly. In fact, the Ramsey family filed for bankruptcy the year before she was born.
  • "My parents taught me that work is a verb. We never had allowance as kids, we worked on commission."
  • We had to get jobs/responsibilities outside of the house. Looking back, it was such a gift.
  • As a mom, I get that its exhausting to have kids do things they don't want to do. But man it pays off! I've met 20, 30, 40 year olds that don't understand you have to work to make money. Its a foundational principle parents can teach kids.
  • Rachel is part of Ramsey Solutions. Listen to Live Inspired Podcast episodes with other Ramsey experts: Dave Ramsey (general finances), Chris Hogan (retire inspired), Meg Meeker (raising children) +  Les Parrott (marriage).
  • Check out The Rachel Cruze show on YouTube.
  • "The standard of living, what we expect out of life today, can only be attained by a credit card."
  • "People need to see that the stuff they are gathering up with their credit cards is not making them happy."
  • Steps to begin the climb out of debt (on average people pay off debt, other than mortgage, in 18-24 months):
    1. You can do it. Don't get bogged down looking at statements. You have to keep in mind you can do it.
    2. List out all debts. Everything but mortgage. Smallest to largest. Regardless of interest rate. Pay minimum payment on everything; then pay off smallest debt first.
    3. Get a second job. Work over time, sell things, make sacrifices; do everything you can to pay off that smallest debt. Once it's paid off, put it all towards the second.
    4. Smallest to largest means you are getting quick wins. It's powerful to take destiny into your own hands; to say I can change my life when I decide to do so.
  • Get your copy of Rachel's new book: Love your Life Not Theirs: 7 money habits for creating a life you love.
  • If having a great car is your goal, work hard and you can do it. Stay content and grateful in the process by:
    1. Quit the comparison. Stop comparing your life to everyone elses and live yours.
    2. Live within your means.
    3. Tackle your debt + make it a habit to stay out of it.
    4. Give a little until you can give a lot. Giving feels good; the buzz from buying is lost quickly.
  • Stop making excuses and start making good choices.
  • "There is always hope, even if you've been on a destructive path for a long time. There might be more work, but there is hope no matter your season or age. It's up to you. It may be harder to see the light, but it is there."
  • "Remembering there are seasons and that there will be change helps me get through tough times."

 RACHEL CRUZE'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The Ideal Team Player. People that win at business are hungry (work hard), humble (humility), smart (people smart). It's a short great read.

2. What is characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today? I was more spontaneous as a kid, I had a lot more off the cuff fun and would do stuff and not be worried. My responsibility level is different today, but I still wish I had more spontaneity in my life.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? Our wedding albums. I don't know where our negatives are!

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? Christine Caine. She is one of the most infectious, bold people I've met. I love hearing her talk about Jesus. [Christine Caine was just on our show! Listen here.]

6. What advice would you give your 20-year-old self? Don't worry. You've got a great life in this next decade so enjoy.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? Be a person that other people are influenced by; be truthful, be strong, and be humble. 

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May 17, 2018

Christine Caine's hurdles may seem insurmountable: She is a survivor of both sexual abuse and cancer. At 32, she found out she was adopted. 

Yet, she is living a profoundly inspired life. Christine leads a global anti human-trafficking movement and was honored with the 2017 Mother Teresa Memorial Award for Social Justice.

Have you ever felt like your story was derailed by unexpected or unwanted news? Christine's story and tips will show you how to "let go of your history so you can step into your destiny."

SHOW NOTES: 

  • John was determined to have Christine on the show after being shocked when a man recently shared that he'd been taken from his home in Africa to be a slave in the US.
  • Christine's organization A21 is currently helping 28 adult victims + 14 children in the US alone.
  • Learn more about A21 Campaign and 21 steps you can take to abolish slavery here
  • Christine’s passion to help victims stems from being sexually abused for more than a decade during her youth.
  • You can rise above the adversity of your past and fulfill a life of purpose. That has been my story; hopefully my past can give others a future.
  • The advent of the #MeToo movement: There is a wakening that this is not okay and realization that it is far wider spread than anyone thought.
  • It's important that we bring justice into the light so that justice can be brought into the circumstance.
  • I would have been very angry; my faith gave me a path forward.
  • It's important to find healing. Anger, bitterness and un-forgiveness do not need to be the end of your story.
  • How do you encourage abuse victims?
    • It's not your fault. Don't internalize what happened or identify yourself by it. You're not what happened to you.
    • Denial doesn't help. It just pushes down anger, resentment + bitterness, all of which must come out.
    • Good counseling. Venting does not equate to healing and wholeness. Process the pain in a safe place with a counselor. When you do, you will come out the other side. 
  • Christine's new book Unexpected: "Just because everything around you is crazy, doesn't mean you have to be! Be rooted."
  • Unexpected things do not have to take you out; you can navigate that. My life is a testament to this truth.
  • What happens to you does not need to define who you are. Your greatest challenge or unexpected news is not where the story ends.
  • Secrets manifest. Learn how to disclose things in a safe place. 
  • Rise above your circumstances. There's a place for lament + grief, but you have to use tools to overcome your adversity.
  • Have faith in this climate of anxiety and fear. Start doing it afraid, until you are no longer afraid.
  • What if we don't have faith? Take the next step toward your future and trust that there is something more than you. Decide what is the next best thing you can do. You'll step into new relationships, opportunities, one door leads to another.
  • How do you do it all? I work a perfectly imbalanced life:
    1. There are seasons of high focus in different aspects of life. I center myself in faith.
    2. I'm drawn by what is important, not the tyranny of the urgent.
    3. I live disciplined, organized and enjoy the journey.
    4. I know that I can't do everything. I don't bear the burden or responsibility for everything I can't change.
    5. I lead through people, empower them and know we are better together.
    6. I do the best I can. At the end of the day, it's enough.
  • How do you let go of the urgent + focus on important? 
    • Be intentional. Keep adjusting your compass to go in the direction you're going. Don't be dragged by the current of the latest craze.
    • Don't let others' agenda become yours.
    • Don't be driven by ego, this puts everything out of order.
    • Keep your soul healthy.
    • We live in an outrage society. Don't react. Respond from a place of wisdom where you feel called to lead. 

CHRISTINE CAINE'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The Bible and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I read it decades ago and keep coming back to it. 

2. What is characteristic or trait that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited today? Lack of cynicism. I loved when I was not jaded. I have to proactively fight to be unjaded. I wish I didn't have to fight so hard.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? Passport!

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? Billy Graham. I'd ask, "How did you keep your passion alive?"

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? Remain a life-long student.

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Chill out. Don't be so uptight about everything. It will happen.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? She stayed the course.

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May 10, 2018

Mitch Albom, author of the bestselling memoir of all time, Tuesdays with Morrie, never meant to be a writer.

Hear the unlikely way Mitch found himself writing his beloved professor's memoir; and what it means for your unfulfilled dreams. (Hint, there just might be a silver lining!)

Hear what it was like to learn Morrie's life lessons, from Morrie himself - first as a student in his classroom and, ultimately, as a friend in his hospital room.

My friends, 15 million have read the book. Countless have watched the movie (produced by Oprah!). Today, we will hear the story behind the wisdom Morrie shared 20+ years ago.

Don't miss this world-class episode. 

SHOW NOTES: 

  • "You know you've done a lot, when you realize how little you've done."
  • The first time Mitch met his professor, Morrie Schwartz, he wanted to drop his class. Listen to find out what made him stay.
  • "Morrie opened my eyes to being a whole person - and that, that was an accomplishment in it of itself. He made me think in terms of being multi-dimensional instead of just 'get a job, get a career, do well.'"
  • Morrie asked Mitch to keep in touch; 16 years passed without contact. Mitch said, "There was no time to concern myself with the past... only the future. I lost track of Morrie."
    • Do you have a Morrie? Can you make time to reach out to him today? What might he say if you did?
  • Tuesdays with Morrie is about Mitch's "visit after I saw him on TV and realized how guilty I felt. He was in the throws of ALS, but was much more positive about life than I was."
  • Mitch saw the gap between them and wanted to know: What does Morrie know that I don't, about life now that he's looking [death] in the face?
  • Mitch wrote the book to help offset Morrie's medical bills. Mitch thought: "I'll write it and it will be over. I'll have done one nice thing for this man."
  • After being turned down by many publishers, Tuesdays with Morrie was published; without fanfare. It didn't debut on as a bestseller.
  • Man plans and God laughs.
  • What would Morrie say today? "Let me know if my head is getting swelled by this... because they aren't celebrating me, they're celebrating the message."
  • Morrie felt enlightened when he was dying; his whole perspective changed in the last two years of his life.
  • "I am on the last great journey of life and everyone wants to ask me what am I packing. " - Morrie Schwartz
  • What was the main lesson you learned from Morrie? "I asked, 'Why don't you accept the sympathy of your visitors?' He said, 'Why would I ever take from people? Taking makes me feel like I'm dying, giving makes me feel like I'm living.' That was a very profound lesson for me and I've never forgotten it."
  • The more you give the better you feel. The earlier you discover that formula, the happier you're going to be.
  • The best fatherly article John has ever read, was written by Mitch, about Chika, an unlikely friend and daughter he met in Haiti. Read it here.   

MITCH ALBOM'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? Gilliad, by Marilynne Robinson. It's a story of an old preacher getting ready to die, writing a letter to his young son. He shares his thoughts on life. It moves me no matter what page I open to.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do with it? Give it away.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? All the pictures of me and my wife with Chika.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? God. The first question I'd ask, "What don't we understand about why we suffer? If you created the world in your image, there's a disconnect between the pain we endure and the glory we think we're going to enjoy after we die."

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? My mom said to me, "You're only going to have a few really good friends in your life no matter how many people you meet. People will disappoint you. The only thing you can do better than to have [a few] people who will always be there and be true, is to marry the best one."

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Slow down. Stop thinking your life is measured by how much you accomplish. Pay attention to how nice people are being to you and how less than nice you are being to them. Recognize that you have a responsibility to the rest of the world, not just yourself. Take a breath now and then... like the Billy Joel lyrics, "Slow down you crazy child, you're so ambitious for a juvenile."

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? He learned, he loved and he learned some more; and tried to be better everyday than he had been the day before.

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May 3, 2018

"It was good until it wasn't."

Erik Wahl valued hard work and success. Achievement + money were his measurement and, by his early 30s, he was very successful in corporate America.

Until he wasn't. During the dot-com bust in 2000, Erik lost the "financial fortress" he'd built and his identity along with it. This led him to ask the life-changing question:"Who were you before the world told you who you should be?"

Erik answered this question, made BIG changes in his life + redefined success. Now, as a performance graffiti artist, he helps clients like IBM, Microsoft and Disney answer this bold question, too. Today, we're going to "unearth great things lying dormant inside" of you. Join us! 

SHOW NOTES:

  • Watch the entire episode on YouTube.
  • Often we're rewarded based on the 3 Deadly P's: Power, prestige + possession.  
  • Our script for how to live is off, we tend to live with a scarcity mindset. "I must secure what's mine so I can build; there's not enough available." Choose abundance instead.
  • When you're rocked at your core foundation - financial, relational, health - you realize you long for something more.
  • "As a speaker, I bypass the cynical brain + go straight to the heart. I stretch minds so we can see everything a bit differently."
  • A mind stretched never returns to its original dimensions.
  • Create for the sake of creating, not the finished product.
  • I changed my definition of success: "What if success is a good meal with my wife and boys at the end of the day? I don't need certain life elements to be a certain way to be successful."
  • Today, Erik is a performance graffiti artist. Check out John's behind the scenes tour of Erik's studio.
  • Opportunity for love, relationship and empathy are hidden in plain sight. Don't be too "successful" to see them.
  • Better leaders are more creative + adapt to change.
  • Everyone is creative, but our creativity is hidden in uncertainties + the quietness of life... a space we don't often enter.
  • Creativity, like gratitude, is a discipline. Embrace the choice to be creative like you embrace doing other difficult things.
  • When asked "Who here is an artist?" Every hand goes up when we're kids, very few as adults. Why? Hear Erik's answer.
  • "Let go of the idea that we 'earn value' through how we perform on paper, what college our kids go to, what car we drive."
    • How do I pivot into this? Look at your life + values. Are you living a life of success or significance? Does your calendar reflect your priorities?
  • Art is an exploration of getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. Can I get out and dance with my wife and not let the critics or my own internal voice of judgement stop me from the enjoyment of moving with someone I love?
  • How do we encourage the next generation to hold tight to their crayons? Commission your child to create. While doodling, they're thinking expansively + problem solving, not for a grade.
    • "Paint a picture of what you want to be when you grow up, and I'll take you for ice-cream... Write a poem about how much you love your mom, and I'll take you to a game."
    • Ask questions about your child's creation. It gives you insight to who they are.
  • Spontaneity is a mini lab to practice living present in the now.
  • Follow Erik at www.TheArtofVision.com
  • Demarius "found" Erik's first geo-cached painting. 
  • Erik dedicated his books Unthink and The Spark & The Grind to his wife and business partner, Tasha.
  • For those of us enduring a trying season in our marriage, what would you say? Focus on why you got married, to: Lift each other up, help your spouse become the very best, become better as two then we could be as one. You entered into it with excitement, love and lust; revisit those emotions. 
  • It's how you act and react to bumps in the road that defines your marriage.

ERIK WAHL'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The Soul of Money by Lyn Twist. It changed my relationship with what had been a dominant identity for me.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do with it? Decreasing my wants and needs has been the most fiscally conservative policy I could have taken on. We'd use it to give to others; build traction for someone else's vision..

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? One of my wife's photo albums because I know how much she would want those and I want to see her face when I come out with it in hand!

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? St. Francis of Assisi, he came from a life of privilege and chose a life of connectedness. I'd want to talk with him about that transition + experience.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? Be present. 

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Don't be so guarded around shaping your identity; you have no idea of what this future "you" will be doing in life... thinking you know is a recipe for challenge.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read?  Servant.

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Apr 26, 2018

"Don't think of your age."

When asked how to actively age, 87-year-old Sister Madonna Buder, nicknamed "The Iron Nun" in her 2016 Nike Ad, shared the above.

She continued with, "Just keep moving." Sr. Buder began running at 48. She has since completed 45+ ironman races, 300+ triathlons and won her age group dozens of times.

My friends, if you think you’re too old, too late, too inexperienced, too anything, to embrace a new dream in your life... then you absolutely cannot miss today’s episode. 

Sr. Madonna Buder, the Iron Nun, will encourage you to go ALL IN for your dreams, no matter your age or perceived limitation. Join us!

SHOW NOTES: 

  • Everyone was expecting her to announce her engagement; instead she announced that she was entering the convent.
  • Began running at 48 and became a world-class athlete, completing in more than 300+ triathlons.
  • "Running harmonizes mind, body and soul." These words, shared by a priest, inspired Sr. Buder to start running.
  • "You have to run for 5 weeks before you get the runner's high."
  • "The only way to not put my body through this [painful training] again is to keep going. From now on, my body is ready."
  • She was in a Nike commercial; they call her "The Iron Nun."
  • She ran in the 2013 Boston Marathon. At 24 miles in, her race ended as they deterred runners after the bombing.
  • When you are met with opposition, it's something training you for the future to be strong.
  • How do you view time? 
    1. The only thing that doesn't change at all anymore is constant change. Everyday you wake up to a new day. Don't carry baggage from the past.
    2. What I love to do that really helps me is to watch children in the park. They run more than they walk! I just think in my mind, I'm that kid running!
  • The Grace to Race, is Sr. Madonna Buder's book.

 SISTER MADONNA BUDER'S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The Bible, even though I've never read the whole thing!

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do with it? I'd have to employ someone to decide which worthy causes to give it to.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? My birth certificate. 

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? I'd go straight to the source, God Himself! The older I get the more questions I have, not answers.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? From my grandfather, "If there is anything worth doing it is worth doing well."

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Always consult with your maker.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read?  In gratitude for all you have made, including me.

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Sep 21, 2017

"It was out of abject failure that I learned to speak."

My friends, today we get to hang out with a legendary speaker. Mark Sanborn has spoken around the world 2,500+ times, authored the wildly popular Fred Factor and just released The Potential Principle

Mark will share his story about being a boy in 4H Club who failed at presenting a 5-minute speech... and how he transformed that failure into a successful speaking career.

As Mark says: "We enjoy our successes but learn more from our setbacks." Join us and get read to transform challenges into an inspired life.

SHOW NOTES:

  • Nobody can prevent you from choosing to be extraordinary.
  • It was out of abject failure that I learned to speak. I bombed so badly giving a 5-minute speech in grade school it made me want to learn to write and deliver a winning speech. 
  • When someone says it doesn't matter, usually they're just minimizing disappointment. 
  • We enjoy our successes but learn a lot more from our setbacks.
  • Look for the pain in your life; often there's an opportunity there. 
  • Lock in greatness, fame is fickle. Greatness is about contribution and that is where you have control.
  • If you blame your failures on others, you can't own your successes. Leaders take responsibility but give credit.
  • Managers try to be heroes. Leaders try to make heroes.
  • Often you become extraordinary inspite of not because of. In the face of a challenge, that's when people become great.
  • We are responsible for living in a way that shows others what we we truly believe.
  • Integrity is the distance between what you think and do.
  • Your beliefs, values and purpose manifest in your work.
  • Couple your actions with intentions; too often we say something but don't do anything about it.
  • Narrow the gap between what you know you should do and what you actually do.
  • Leadership test: Is anything/one better because of you?
  • We all know how good we've become. None of us know how good we can be. Try to achieve a little more of your potential so you don't miss the great opportunity of life.
  • The Potential Principle, Mark's new book, share a process to help you go from where you are to where you want to be

MARK SANBORN'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? The Bible is the underpinning of my worldview. The River Why, is one of the greatest works of fiction. It really impacted me.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do with it? Meet with my financial planner and make sure my family's needs are met so they can get by, but not so much they don't have to do anything. Invest the rest in institutions that will outlive me.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? A handful of books and our computer with photos.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? The Apostle Paul who called himself the chief of the sinners, but was also one of the greatest influencers of the Christian faith. I can relate to a really flawed guy who is doing his best.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? A congressman told me at a young age that anytime you give a speech, people always want to be entertained. I've replaced "entertain" with engage.

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Lighten up. I can be a pretty intense dude. Be serious about what you do, but don't take yourself to serious.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? If you want to be successful do whatever you do a little better than anyone else who did it by working a little bit harder than any one else did. 

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Jul 20, 2017

"How you respond to adversity determines the story you write."

Life came at Ben hard and fast. When he was 6 months old, his divorcee mom was diagnosed with a rare disease and given only a few years to live.

The above quote is one Ben gleaned from his mother’s journal*, which he received 10 years after she passed. The time capsule of her positive attitude preserved in the journal swept Ben away. Today, he shares her worldview as a performance coach, speaker and author.

You're going to love Ben’s story, heart + concrete tools to build the business and life you want. Don’t miss it.

SHOW NOTES:

  • Life is tough but we have it in us to keep fighting.
  • Black boxes: We all have these places where we tuck away things we aren’t ready to deal with. (For me, that was my mom’s journal.) The stuff that takes you deep and makes you ask: Is it time for me to go there?
  • Don’t wait too long to take on the stuff that hurts. Real challenges show real character. Have courage and surround yourself with people who help give you that courage. That’s when you’ll find a deeper level of inner success.
  • Everybody has a story and everyone is writing their story. My goal with clients is to help him/her connect on a deeper level to what he/she is capable of achieving.
  • Right where you are, right now, in your life: It is part of your story. It’s likely not the end; just a chapter.
  • Learn and grow where you are. The life you want, you can get if you:
    1. Have a strong vision.
    2. Believe in that vision.
    3. Are willing to put the work in every day.
  • Why am I trying to control something I can’t control? When I asked this question, it helped me move on in my professional path.
  • Think about where you want to go, personally and professionally. Write it on paper “I am: a marathon runner” and believe in it. “I am at this level in sales.” Once you understand where you’re going, that’s how you build a prize fighter day.
  • Make every day a “prize fighter day.” What does this mean? Take your goal and break it down into what you need to do today to ensure you eventually meet your goal. If you spend your day this way, you’re having a prize fighter day.
  • Darren Hardy, The Compound Affect
  • Create habits that are sustainable longterm.
  • A successful mindset is one where we focus on solutions rather than the problem.
  • Focusing on solutions rather than problems = the power to reframe.
  • Identify what you can do that is positive and keep your mind on that.
  • How you choose to respond to adversity determines the story you write.
  • Ben’s purpose statement: to educate, empower and inspire individuals to uncover their passions and desires to seek a greater vision for themselves.
  • If you don’t know why you’re doing something, identify the purpose because it’s what is going to get you back up.
  • @ContinuedFight on twitter and Instagram

*Ben’s mom’s journal:

 

BEN NEWMAN'S LIVE INSPIRED 7 

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? Discover your Destiny, Robin Sharma. If you’re looking to find your purpose, this is a great fable format that will do it for you.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. Donate to Barnes Jewish Hospital in honor of my mother. We donate a lot for my mom, so I’d want my wife to get to pick some places to donate to her passions, too. I would definitely fly on a private jet because it is hard to be on the road and miss family time. To catch 30 – 40 more nights at home? I would do it!

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. My mom’s journal.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be? My mom. I would just hold her hand and hug her and I’d be crying so hard I couldn’t speak.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? It’s not how long you live it’s how you choose to live your life. Advice from my mom.

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Never settle; emotionally and in relationships especially.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? Leave your legacy.

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May 18, 2017

"I grew up in New York, in a small place..."

Lolly Daskal grew up in Brooklyn, NY. One of the biggest most metropolitan cities in the world, and yet to Lolly "it felt like a very small place." Her life existed within a few city blocks and her community only spoke Yiddish, German and Hungarian. Her family was very religious and she was expected to be married and begin having children by 16.

Lolly grew up very inquisitive, which was not supported in an environment where you were expected to just keep things "they way they are." When she first moved out of the community, she discovered the power of books and believed for the first time: "Wow!" I can ask any question, do anything, be anyone!"

For the first time - her world felt expansive. While she felt she no longer had a home, she found "sometimes you have to get lost to be found."

Lolly has been an insatiable student of books, the world and human behavior since. Today, she is a highly-sought business coach and author and her mission is to teach others how to "lead from within."

SHOW NOTES:

  • Lolly has read a book a day for 20+ years.
  • Self discovery isn't easy. You feel like you're on a wheel and you're not sure you are ever going to get out; if it is ever going to get better.
  • "A game changer for me was reading what Joseph Campbell wrote: 'In your abyss lies your treasures.' We have ideas of what we want to be, but life doesn't unfold that way. If I can remember this quote, than I am okay."
  • Her book The Leadership Gap was published this month and shares her rethink system, or 7 leadership archetypes that she's used with 1,000+ clients.
    • Example: "R" is for rebel; someone who wants to make an impact in the world, but they need confidence to do it. The gap is when you don't have confidence. How do you get confidence? You identify your capabilities and competencies. You get to choose, are you going to be a rebel and choose confidence or imposter and feel inadequate/undeserving?
  • We all have self doubt because we measure ourselves by everyone else and end up feeling less worthy. Negative internal dialogue is very prominent.
  • Ways to overcome imposter syndrome (aka feeling undeserving):
    1. At night, think about all the things you did well that day. This will help even out negative messages + change your inner dialogue.
    2. Ask yourself: What did I do today that I can do even better tomorrow? Don't measure against someone else, measure against yourself
  • www.LollyDaskal.com 

     

LOLLY DASKAL'S INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read? Man's Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl. She rereads it every year on her birthday. Keeps her grounded in what's important.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do? Get every single homeless person off the street.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be? 100s of pictures from when my kids were younger.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be?Victor Frankl, Joseph Campbell, 

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received? "When you are no longer able to change the situation, you will always be challenge to change yourself." - Frankl | It will teach you be flexible to change and challenge yourself, to find something with in you that can be different. Continuously grow, learn, change and stay agile.

6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20? Let go of perfect.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read? Lolly saw greatness in everyone she met. 

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Jan 26, 2017

“Parents are so much more worried today then they were 35 years ago. They so desperately want to be ‘good parents’ that they’re exhausting important energy on stuff that doesn’t matter.”

This is a quote from today’s guest, Meg Meeker, MD. Meg is a pediatrician, author, parent, wife, grandmother and business owner. Her goal is to diffuse fear-based parenting. 

I shared the stage with Meg at the Dave Ramsey SMART Conference and fell in love with her message around her book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters

I selfishly invited her on the show to grow as a father myself and help you in your journey as a parent, too. Meg’s insights are great for parents, but relate to all of us as aunts, uncles, sons and daughters, too.

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MY MAIN TAKEAWAYS:

  • 3 Ways to Shift from Fear-Based Parenting

    1. Shift your perspective of yourself in your kids eyes. If a child is with you, he doesn’t want anything other than knowing that you like being with him. Stop worrying about what he’s eating for dinner and just focus on him.
    2. Make an exhaustive list of ALL the things you worry about with your kids. Then tell yourself “Let go of all of it! Today I’m just going to communicate that I like being with him.” Then do it again the next day. Watch, your whole relationship will change.
    3. Schedule your child less. Everyone says their life is too busy, but who makes it so? Are you willing to surrender time with your child for them to be in an activity that they’ll only be involved in for a few years? A child’s character is developed when he’s face to face with mom and dad. That time is important. Also, the remedy for your child acting out is MORE time with you. It all goes back to: Don’t schedule them so much.
  • A tip about getting to 35 years of marriage? We refused to quit. Once we determined that we were that committed, then you could just wait “it” out.
  • No matter our age, we all struggle with self-esteem. Hearing positive feedback from our parents as adults is still comforting.
  • Make parenting simpler: Love your kids and do the best you can. Letting your young kids know you want their company is important. We think kids need other kids and peers. They don’t. They need you.
  • Real joy comes from time spent at home working through life with your family. Life in a family unit is messy, working through the messiness together is how the joy comes.
  • Don’t assume that just because your peers are doing something, that it has to be so. Set the bar higher for your child. They can have a better life than they currently do (in regards to technology, etc.). Two ways to do this:
  • Find two times a month to schedule yourself to stay home and spend time as a family. The first week might be terrible, but by the fourth one, it will be great.
  • Declare one hour in the evening as electronic free. Kids are feeling ignored because parents are on cell phones. Parents are having a hard time because kids aren’t paying attention due to their relationship with technology. Pick one hour each evening (or 3 nights wkly to start) with no tech. For this to work, everyone in your house must follow the rule. 
  • One piece of advice for fathers to “be heroes”? Recognize you already have the cape (because your kid has put it on you!). You don’t need to get a bigger house or get a pool in the backyard. You just need to maintain. Shift your perspective, you are already a hero in your kids life. (Note: this is what your kid is looking for in a hero, and it’s well within your grasp, be: available, engaged, have his back, and protect him.)

MEG MEEKER, MD’S LIVE INSPIRED 7

1. What is the best book you’ve ever read?

Celebration of the Disciplines by Richard Foster. My main takeaway was to simplify and focus on the important stuff.

2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you do?

I would give 99% of it away to World Vision and The Medical Institute for Sexual Health. My needs are met, I don’t need more. Having too much would just complicate my life.

3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What would it be?

I would grab a photo of my parents; they are no longer alive and I don’t trust my memory to keep a clear picture.

4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it be?

Jesus. I would love to talk to Jesus, have him clear up some unanswered questions I have about pain in the world. I would also want to tell him thank you.

5. What is the best advice you’ve ever received?

Reduce your expectations. They are what cause us misery. the more we can accept what is and who people are and love people for who people are today, the freer we really are to to live and to love.

 6. Looking back, what advice would you give yourself at age 20?

Keep focused on God’s plan for your life, not YOUR plan for you life because you are self-centered.

7. It’s been said that all great people can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to read?

She loved him well. First God. Second, my husband. If after I die this can be said, then my life has been good.

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