Oct 11, 2018
Brené Brown, 4x New York Times bestselling
author, researcher, Oprah's Super Soul Sunday favorite and top-5
TED Talk presenter of all time, joins us today!
We'll talk about her new book Dare to Lead.
Share tips to become better leaders. Identify what might
be holding us back. And hear the vulnerability expert herself share
vulnerably about her "big, rowdy Texas" family + life.
Join us to live (and lead!) inspired with one of my very
- Watch Brené Brown's TED talk on vulnerability here.
- Brené studies courage, vulnerability, shame, empathy + what
transformational leaders will need in the future.
- "I was raised with a very Texas sensibility. I had to be brave
and wasn't allowed to be vulnerable. Now, years and 400,000 pieces
of data later, I know there is not courage without
- "You can't write a new ending to a story that you have
- You know what is harder than not fitting in at
school? Not fitting in at home.
- True belonging never requires you to change who you
are. It requires you to be who you are.
- We can never experience a sense of belonging that is greater
than our sense of self-worth and courage to stand alone because
sometimes we have to stand alone.
- Even at fortune 10 companies, without exception, Brené hears
that one of the hardest things about work is feeling like you don't
belong. In the absence of belonging, we show up in ways
that are outside of our normal values.
- My kids don't need me to apologize for working. They need to
see me be strong and contribute and do something I love and then
they need me to be present when I am home.
- 90% of "balancing it all" is having the right partner, one
that shines when you shine.
- Brené's marriage hack: Instead of thinking,
"it should be 50/50" a solid partnership is one where, when
you have 20%, they can cough up 80%. Share how much you have + ask
how much your partner has. If you can't get to 100% together, you
have to have kindness, patience, grace with each other to make it
- If I feel nauseous when I'm
done, I probably did a good job.
- Vulnerability is courage.
- To opt out of difficult conversations around gender, race, or
class, because you can't do it perfectly or be comfortable is the
definition of privilege. I'd rather contribute and be
criticized then play it safe.
Show Notes on Brené Brown's
new Book: Dare to
- Get a copy of Brene's new book Dare to Lead and additional resources for
- We asked all the leaders we interviewed: What
is the future of leadership? What scares you the most about not
being able to find new leaders? What is missing? From family-owned,
to starts-ups to fortune-10 companies we heard: "We need
more courage in our leaders."
- We asked "What do you see as a barrier to courage?" In the book
we share 10 barriers to leadership. Examples: (1) unwillingness or
inability to have tough conversations (2) blaming instead of
- The biggest barrier to courageous leadership is
self-protection, the way we armor up. You can't lead from an
- If you can't do hard, real and vulnerable you cannot
lead in the future. What doesn't need to be vulnerable and
human will be done by machines.
- When we are unsure how we are contributing/don't see
meaningfulness in our contribution, we start hustling for our work.
We over emphasize our importance... and hustle to make sure people
think we are worthy.
- Tip: Make sure you have conversations and
acknowledge where your employees are adding value. Ask where they
see themselves adding value. There is nothing worse than the
behaviors that show up when people don't know. They stop being
learners + start being knowers... put more emphasis on being right
than doing something right... on being important v. doing important
work. If you see some of these tendencies in yourself, it's
a sign you're not clear on your value.
- The biggest sign of confidence is curiosity; when we know our
value, we don't have to know everything. When we aren't confident,
we: Prove, please, perfect, poll.
- How do you pivot from negativity to hope and
courage? I give myself permission to complain with
perspective. Once I do this, I move into practicing gratitude,
because the people who have the most capacity for joy are the most
BRENE BROWN'S LIVE INSPIRED
1. What is the best book you’ve ever read?
The Alchemist because I
always go back to it. My main takeaway: when you are on the right
path, the universe conspires to help you.
2. What is a characteristic or trait
that you possessed as a child that you wish you still exhibited
3. Your house is on fire, all living
things and people are out. You have the opportunity to run in and
grab one item. What would it be? Photos and the
crosses I had made out of the my kids' baby cribs.
4. You are sitting on a bench
overlooking a gorgeous beach. You have the opportunity to have a
long conversation with anyone living or dead. Who would it
be? Maya Angelou.
5. What is the best advice you've ever
received? When we know better we do better.
6. What advice would you give your
20-year-old self? You don't have to act so tough,
it's okay to be afraid.
7. It’s been said that all great people
can have their lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want
yours to read? She contributed more than she
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