Jan 26, 2017
“Parents are so much more worried today then they were 35 years
ago. They so desperately want to be ‘good parents’ that they’re
exhausting important energy on stuff that doesn’t matter.”
This is a quote from today’s guest, Meg Meeker, MD. Meg is a
pediatrician, author, parent, wife, grandmother and business owner.
Her goal is to diffuse fear-based parenting.
I shared the stage with Meg at the Dave Ramsey SMART Conference
and fell in love with her message around her book
Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters.
I selfishly invited her on the show to grow as a father myself
and help you in your journey as a parent, too. Meg’s insights are
great for parents, but relate to all of us as aunts, uncles, sons
and daughters, too.
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MY MAIN TAKEAWAYS:
- 3 Ways to Shift from Fear-Based Parenting
- Shift your perspective of yourself in your kids
eyes. If a child is with you, he doesn’t want anything
other than knowing that you like being with him. Stop worrying
about what he’s eating for dinner and just focus on him.
- Make an exhaustive list of ALL the things you worry
about with your kids. Then tell yourself “Let go of all of
it! Today I’m just going to communicate that I like being with
him.” Then do it again the next day. Watch, your whole relationship
- Schedule your child less. Everyone says their
life is too busy, but who makes it so? Are you willing to surrender
time with your child for them to be in an activity that they’ll
only be involved in for a few years? A child’s character is
developed when he’s face to face with mom and dad. That time is
important. Also, the remedy for your child acting out is MORE time
with you. It all goes back to: Don’t schedule them so
- A tip about getting to 35 years of marriage? We refused to
quit. Once we determined that we were that committed, then you
could just wait “it” out.
- No matter our age, we all struggle with self-esteem. Hearing
positive feedback from our parents as adults is still
- Make parenting simpler: Love your kids and do
the best you can. Letting your young kids know you want their
company is important. We think kids need other kids and peers. They
don’t. They need you.
- Real joy comes from time spent at home working through life
with your family. Life in a family unit is messy, working through
the messiness together is how the joy comes.
- Don’t assume that just because your peers are doing something,
that it has to be so. Set the bar higher for your child. They can
have a better life than they currently do (in regards to
technology, etc.). Two ways to do this:
- Find two times a month to schedule yourself to stay home and
spend time as a family. The first week might be terrible, but by
the fourth one, it will be great.
- Declare one hour in the evening as electronic free. Kids are
feeling ignored because parents are on cell phones. Parents are
having a hard time because kids aren’t paying attention due to
their relationship with technology. Pick one hour each evening (or
3 nights wkly to start) with no tech. For this to work, everyone in
your house must follow the rule.
- One piece of advice for fathers to “be
heroes”? Recognize you already have the cape (because your
kid has put it on you!). You don’t need to get a bigger house or
get a pool in the backyard. You just need to maintain. Shift your
perspective, you are already a hero in your kids life. (Note: this
is what your kid is looking for in a hero, and it’s well within
your grasp, be: available, engaged, have his back, and protect
MEG MEEKER, MD’S LIVE
1. What is the best book
you’ve ever read?
Celebration of the Disciplines by Richard Foster. My
main takeaway was to simplify and focus on the important stuff.
2. Tomorrow you discover your wealthy uncle shockingly
dies at the age of 103; leaving you millions. What would you
I would give 99% of it away to World Vision and The Medical
Institute for Sexual Health. My needs are met, I don’t need more.
Having too much would just complicate my life.
3. Your house is on fire, all living things and people
are out. You have the opportunity to run in and grab one item. What
would it be?
I would grab a photo of my parents; they are no longer alive and
I don’t trust my memory to keep a clear picture.
4. You are sitting on a bench overlooking a gorgeous
beach. You have the opportunity to have a long conversation with
anyone living or dead. Who would it be?
Jesus. I would love to talk to Jesus, have him clear up some
unanswered questions I have about pain in the world. I would also
want to tell him thank you.
5. What is the best advice you’ve ever
Reduce your expectations. They are what cause us misery. the
more we can accept what is and who people are and love people for
who people are today, the freer we really are to to live and to
6. Looking back, what advice would you give
yourself at age 20?
Keep focused on God’s plan for your life, not YOUR plan for you
life because you are self-centered.
7. It’s been said that all great people can have their
lives summed up in one sentence. How do you want yours to
She loved him well. First God. Second, my husband. If after I
die this can be said, then my life has been good.
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